Live like you are dying…

My friend recently lost her husband of 26 years to terminal brain cancer.  Eyes are the windows to the soul and in her eyes I see an immense amount of pain, loneliness, and sadness.  People surround her, people care for her, people want to help her, but the only thing she wants is her best friend back.  Her husband was loved and respected by many, and his quick wit and humor endeared him to many others.  The courage and strength I have experienced from this family is an inspiration.

Live like you are dying.  No regrets.  Every moment, every memory, every smile is a blessing.  Happiness radiates and is infectious….  make every day count.



Rest in peace, my friend.  You are a welcomed soul in heaven.



The road is long…

The road is long, the journey is rough and consists of many different directions, obstacles, and decisions.  Being a lifelong codependent, I have always traveled my path with the belief that I can handle anything and everything on my own.  This belief is shared by many codependents as it creates an appearance of strength and competence.  The farther I travel on my walk, the more I have found others like me and this comes with the enlightenment that I do not have to be alone.  Others are willing to help carry my burdens and I am able to help with theirs.  In gathering friends and family along the way, the journey has become an adventure. forest above The strong and capable me becomes the sharing, loving, alive, and happy inner self that has waited for the chance to spring forth.  My journey is filled with faith, sunlight and happiness, an excitement greets each new day.  Codependency will no longer overshadow my world and leave me crouched in a corner, afraid to face the world.

I have taken a step back to view the forest, instead of focusing on the trees.

Music is therapy

“When you’re down and troubled and you need a helping hand and nothing is going right….  you just call out my name and know wherever I am…  I’ll come running to see you again.  You got a friend.”

“Sometimes in our lives we all have pain, we all have sorrow.  But if we are wise we know that there’s always tomorrow.  Lean on me when you’re not strong and I’ll be your friend, I’ll help you carry on.  For it won’t be long ’til I’m gonna need somebody to lean on.”

We are on this path together and need to be here for each other.  Musicfriend is the therapist that can help get you through life’s toughest challenges.  Together, we can push onward and truly enjoy the journey to recovery from codependency, addiction, depression, etc.  Lean on me…  Someday, I may need to lean on you as well.

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A day with mom

I am a very lucky, fortunate daughter as  I was able to spend the day with mom.  My mom is the sweetest, most giving person in my world.  She is also very funny and silly and we spend so much of our time laughing.  I look forward to our days together as we get much accomplished.  Today was filled with many errands, but also love, laughter, and happiness.  I will do anything for my mother as I love her more than I can say.  She is a carefree, fun and beautiful soul.  May God continue to bless her!  I am a very lucky daughter indeed.mother

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Keeping your head up

If God brought you to it, God will get you through it.  The mantra I repeat so often on days when I feel down or pushed around.  It is amazing to know that there are reasons for everything that happens, even though we may not see the reason immediately.  Just by keeping my faith, I have dealt with situations with an even temper and have persevered and accomplished more than I ever believed possible.  I have also discovered that having a happy and upbeat attitude is infectious and more and more people will be drawn to you.  Keep your head up, a smile on your face, and move forward.

Keep your head up; you are so much better than you believe.  I promise.

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To be successful….

What does it mean to be successful?  What does it mean to be valued?  Many people feel successful in their profession as they are making money, they are working hard, they are in management and consider themselves to be powerful.  However, are these same people valued?  To be truly successful means to have respect while being respectful, have value while valuing others, and have happiness while making others happy.  Success solely by earning a large paycheck is only a partial success.

Many misguided, self-proclaimed success stories have reached their heights by using others as stepping stones.  The hurt and distrust left in the wake of this type of success is difficult to overcome. 

I have been a stepping stone many times, and will continue to be one as I refuse to hurt or step on my co-workers to be successful.  The type of success that I have gained is much harder to achieve.  It takes dedication, teamwork, inspiration and admiration.  I give and I receive, therefore, I am successful.

Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.
-Albert Einstein

Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.
-Booker T. Washington

Warm and fuzzy

The temperature has been below zero for 45 days this winter.  I must have had a blackout as I don’t remember moving to Antarctica.

Although the weather outside is frightful, the hearts of Midwesterners are wonderful.  People continue to show kindness and courtesy, not to mention smiling and finding humor despite the cold.  There is a bond among the hearty people created by the weather.  This bond keeps us strong and our skin thick.

Spring is right around the corner and with it will come the birds singing and the flowers blooming.  A true piece of heaven here on earth.


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